Shades of Blue: 08/01/2009

Monday, August 31, 2009

Cover Up

One of the funnest things in life is touching, so when I garden I will not wear gloves so I can feel the plants, the soil, and the water.

I set out to clean up my yuccas.

I reach in and pull out some dried up leaves, and cut some in an effort to shape the beast.

As I was reaching the end of the clean up I punctured my finger with one of the sharp leaves.
I quickly puled out the piece of the plant.

But not all of it came out and my finger doubled in size. Was it an allergic reaction or infection...

The lesson, get out your pink gardening gloves when you feel compelled to clean the yuccas.

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Snailey leads the way

Grasshopper collected Littlest Pet Shop critters in first and second grades.

She pulls them out to play sometimes. Here they hang on the lamp post. The little animals have magnets on their feet. Play is important because of what it teaches parents about their children. If you want to know what she's thinking about, what interests or bothers her at any given moment, watch what she does when she plays.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Forgiveness

I read this lovely post today and I borrowed the picture. Pictures have more power than words as far as I am concerned. Visual cues are always more accurate. Pondering forgiveness is something one has to do here and there and I am looking at it today.

Forgiveness: 10 Steps To Giving It and Getting It

Forgiving someone means that we find the strength to go beyond ourselves to a place that helps us see those who have hurt us in a new way. That's never easy. Seeking forgiveness requires us to confront the past, see what we have done wrong, and commit to changing our behavior. That's huge. But like the ability to forgive others, it is within our grasp.

1. There is no such thing as an unforgivable act. So don't let your fear of what you did, or rage about what was done to you, dissuade you from either seeking or granting forgiveness.

2. Mind your own business. We can only grant forgiveness for that which was done to us and should only seek forgiveness for that which we have done.

3. Stay balanced. The number of apologies you seek should be proportional to the number you are willing to offer, because the doing of each nurtures the capacity for the other.

4. Know that you are never alone. From God's perspective, sincere effort to correct the past renders earns any of us what my kids call a do over.

5. Honor the past, but don't let yourself be imprisoned by it. Don't allow your fear of forgetting what was done to you keep you from forgiving those who did it.

6. Allow love to triumph over logic. There will always be a good reason to keep doing what you are doing or to withhold your forgiveness from someone else. But real issue is whether or not you love them enough to go beyond that logic.

7. Keep it simple. Apologize for, or forgive, one thing at a time. There is always more to the story, but this is not the moment to explore it.

8. The answer doesn't always have to be yes. We are not always ready to forgive and that is okay. But the answer shouldn't always be no, either. Consider what you loose by saying no, and be concerned if that has become your default response.

9. Remember that forgiveness is not always the end of the process, but the beginning of a new level of relationship which may continue to be shaped by those past acts which demanded forgiveness.

10. Celebrate the moment of forgiveness in some way that rewards both the one seeking forgiveness and the one who grants it. A hug, a kiss, perhaps something even more intimate. A drink or a shared meal. Whatever it is, you have both accomplished a major thing, so make the most of it